Everybody has their own pace of leading life. When a child
is born, it* is innocent and learns to grow with curiosity.The curiosity in a
soul needs to be kept alive so a person evolves and grows, and eventually feels
enlightened enough to choose a life path for itself *.
But the naivety is gradually crushed when there is pressure
on one to decide and lead its life as per the time frame defined by us in the
first place.
I do not mean that one must be aimless in life and kill time
doing absolutely nothing (not judging. If you afford to do that and are happy,
who cares), but it is pure unjust for a person to rush through its’ life
because it is meant to. A lot of people just want to pause too often, look
around, and observe the beauty in a thousand ignored things, in nature or elsewhere, and resume when they are ready. If everybody focused on moving fast, the world would be an over competitive place to be in, where a lot of people would
end up being depressed or cuckoo.
Time is relative, but perception is subjective. Perception
exists, and it is not a made up word. It is not imaginary. Hence, pace is
relative to each individual.
I do not mean to demean people who are fast in
life, Of course they have a pace too and good for them they are quick. Maybe
they want their lives like that, but, maybe the people who are slower have
different priorities than getting married at the right age or earning a billion
before they are 40. But since now we are all measured in terms of possessions, the
“slower” ones are brutally termed as unsuccessful.
Whoever said life is a race must have been really fast. “Appropriate”
time as set up by others can be daunting emotionally to people. Looking at the
world passing by on social media makes one feel that everyone is achieving
great things while you are behind your mobile phones aimlessly scrolling, but,
no one is going to put up their failures online so you don’t know what the
other persons’ struggles are and how it is coping with them.
Which makes me wonder, why are
failures a taboo? Isn’t that a part of growing as well? I believe it is high
time topics like these were sabotaged from the list of being embarrassed about.
People need time to experiment their love lives, their
professional lives, in fact even their spiritual life, and it should be okay to
try and really know, that this is it. This is where I belong and this is my
call. One needs to be satisfied with what they end up doing before reaching
their deathbeds, instead of living in mediocrity only because it was time. Life
is too special to be mediocre.
*Wrote “itself” for
convenience, and not to objectify humans. Kindly replace with Himself/herself
or whatever you identify with J
